Balance—I’m often asked how to achieve (and master!) work-life balance.
I’m just going to cut to the chase here—you don’t.
I’m not sure you ever get your family affairs, relationships, work demands, “me” time and so on, to a place that’s truly “equal” or “even” —as the very term (balance) would suggest.
Life simply isn’t easily compartmentalized these days…
And the idea that you need to achieve balance actually creates another to-do (or problem to solve) in the mind.
Harmony, on the other hand, may be a more realistic goal.
At its core, harmony conveys a sense of softly and fluidly co-existing, or rather coalescing, in a spirit of cooperation. Like a sweet, expertly composed musical symphony, the arrangement works—in fact, it works beautifully.
Wouldn’t you want your life—taking a holistic perspective here—to beautifully flow and intertwine (even if career, family, personal affairs weren’t necessarily perfectly and evenly balanced all of the time?)
In my opinion, it’s ok if the melody is always changing a bit, so to speak…
And it’s generally at this point in my analogy here that I’m asked – well, how do I fit it all in then? How will the different parts of my life come together and beautifully intertwine? How do I do this consistently?
Here’s the trick. And it almost sounds absurdly easy—do more of what you want and less of what you don’t want.
Yup. There you have it.
Now, please don’t misinterpret this. Of course you will always have responsibilities and matters to take care of that you may not “want” to handle, but that’s not what I’m referring to necessarily, so hear me out. I’m talking about shedding some of the layers that, when you truly think about it, you know are not serving you.
I want you to take a good, close look at everything you’ve done (or felt you’ve had to do) in the past 2 weeks.
Did you say yes to an event or invite because you felt obliged to and worried what others would think if you turned it down?
How much of your time and energy is tied up in worrying about things that may (or may not) happen in the future?
Or did you work late all week simply because your colleagues did (be honest)?
The list goes on and I think you get the picture here…
Take a minute and run through the series of questions below to begin to understand where you need to focus your energy and attention:
- Visualize what you want your life to look like, and what you do not want in your life.
- What isn’t serving you? What doesn’t need to be in your life? What’s dragging you down? Keeping you awake at night?
- When you’ve identified a few things, write them down. Now you’re aware of where you need to begin trimming the fat, so to speak.
- Next, ask yourself what you truly, deeply want in your life—if that’s too lofty a goal at this stage, what do you want today? This week? What do you want to accomplish? What do you want to do? Who do you want to be with?
Now, based on your answers, I want you to “fill up” this week on the things you love—on all of the activities that support your vision. Say yes more often to what you want, and say no more often to what you don’t want.
And here’s the thing about “filling up” on what you love—it creates a pretty cool spillover effect. As in, do one thing you love (and do it with love,) and your chances of experiencing joy and happiness in the next moment/task increase, even if it’s something you may not be looking forward to (thanks to that lingering, high vibrational ‘joy buzz.’)
And, it naturally “crowds out” the habits, activities and to-dos that are not serving you. When you consciously choose to do more of what you love, the simple fact of the matter is that you have less time for the things that matter less…and things begin to shift accordingly.
It’s truly that simple.
So, give these tips a try this week and see how much more harmonious your life can be—no balance required.
Wishing you lots of beautiful, harmonious HIGH VIBES this weekend!
P.S. Are you curious about how to harmonize your health + wellness + life goals—even with an insanely busy schedule? Let’s chat and see how I might be able to help.