I wanted to chat a bit on our relationship with time because I think this — how we perceive and construct our concept of time — is, perhaps, the top cause of our daily stress.
The most common thing I hear from my clients (and we all have a tendency to think this way at times) is that they don’t think they have the time to do x, y and z. There’s not enough time to be truly healthy. Or, there’s not enough time to pursue our goals and dreams. There’s never enough time to get beyond the day-to-day…and, you get the idea.
Naturally, this kind of thinking can lead to feelings of pressure, stress, anxiety and even sadness.
In fact, I had my own mini “time” meltdown this past weekend. Yup. Even stress reduction experts have moments.
Sparked by the start of another semester of my masters program, after a nice holiday break, and coinciding with a very busy quarter for my business (not to mention a home construction process and a sh*tload of paperwork and training for the process of adopting a child internationally – both stories for another day!), I felt the intense overwhelm.
But, it didn’t last long — because I know what I need to do to manage my stress response and my mindset.
I immediately stopped my spiral of panicky thoughts and told myself to reframe, redefine and to — literally — rephrase how I was thinking and speaking about time. Shelby, you have all the time in the world. You choose how to spend your time. What can you do right now to alleviate some of this pressure?
I love Kundalini Yoga — and one of the key Kundalini Yoga sutras is: When the time is on you, start, and the pressure will be off. In other words, stop freaking out about whatever it is you’re stressing about, and just take one tiny baby step right now.
And, you know what? It works. It feels productive. It reduces the pressure.
When we’re engaged in taking action instead of spiraling out of control into a negative thought loop, our nervous system doesn’t, well, get all jacked up, so to speak.
When we’re in momentum — not meltdown — mode our body experiences an entirely different (better!) biochemical reaction. Stressing about “what if” scenarios and other negatives only causes more suffering, indecision and paralysis (not to mention that jacked up nervous system I mentioned above.)
And, as counterintuitive as it may seem, we actually waste a ton of time when we’re constantly worrying about not having the time we need. (Go ahead and read that line again!)
This kind of worrying will trigger our body’s stress response, and when we trigger the stress response we’re going to burn through valuable energy — energy that could be used in a better, more productive fashion.
So, here’s the thing — we do have time. When we stop worrying about it — surprise! — we feel like we have more of it.
If you’re rolling your eyes at me right about now, consider this: everyone — me, you, the busiest of stay-at-home moms, the Richard Bransons of the world and so on — all have the same 168 hours in a week.
And the Richard Bransons of the world aren’t walking around saying, “I don’t have time to do the things I want and need to do.” Why? They’re too busy doing. They’re too busy taking action. They’re getting things done. They’re not worrying about whether or not they have enough time; they’re solving time management stressors and issues in real-time as they go along. That’s a whole different energetic feel, my friend.
So, start, and the pressure will be off.
Remember — more momentum means less meltdown.
You have the time to be healthy.
You have the time to have fun.
You have the time for meaningful relationships and family.
You have the time to crush it at work.
You have time to meditate.
You have nothing but time.
All we ever (truly) have is time. This. Moment. Right. Now.
But, it’s how we consciously choose to spend each moment that defines our relationship to time.
OK – if you put off your goals or put off being healthy because you feel like you never have enough time, let’s chat: click here to schedule a time on my calendar.
Wishing you lots and lots of (healthy and stress-free) high vibes,